We hear the word “love” a lot. Out in society among people or on TV or magazines. But what does love really mean? We (in western society) just tend to equate it to a feeling that we have for someone or something. At least that’s really how it looks like. A man will tell a lady he loves her (or a lady telling a man) and then treat them like crap.
Or, saying to the kids “I really love you”…. and scream and grunt like a pig with impatience at them just minutes later. Am I the only one who sees this far too often? (I doubt it)
Is it there more to it? What does love look like?
The following is one of the most inspiring things on love I’ve ever read. It’s out of the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13 verses 4 through 7.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Every day, several times a day, I look at my life and my behaviour in it. It’s certainly not always been this way, but in recent years I try to check myself.. I try to think about how I’m feeling as I’m feeling something and try to see if I’m living the way I believe I should live. All the while, not over analyzing. Follow me??
To me, this short text becomes quite powerful. It is a description of what love should look like. How I should treat those “I love”. I often ask myself during the day or at the end of the day…. “have I been patient with my daughter or my loved ones?”
Have I respected my daughter or my loved ones in allowing them to be themselves, to make their choices and not be selfish with them… seeking to try and focus on filling their needs instead of my own. Giving them of my time, focus and energy. Trying to encourage them.
I must admit that I fail at this measurement each and every day in some way. In fact I believe we all do. Heck, just looking out at the world around it’s much easier to see expressions of pure selfishness and impatience than it is to see a genuine love between people.
But, it’s like exercising a muscle. Doing proper arm curls with a proper amount of weight will eventually strengthen the targeted muscles. Starting at whatever strength you have…. and it gradually builds.
The same can be said of practicing love, patience and kindness. At first (if you’re looking to see how you’re actually doing) you’ll find you make mistakes and may not even be very strong/good at it. But in due time the muscle strengthens and these characteristics become part of you as you try to consciously flex the muscle with proper form.
Be encouraged, make a difference. People like to talk about changing the world, and doing great things.
But it starts right here. In YOU’RE heart (and mine).
It’s up to you. Being a good example and saying a good word can go a long way.